Do Pets Deal With Anxiety and Depression Like We Do?
- Abby Juli
- Nov 25
- 4 min read
When we think about mental health, we often picture human experiences — panic attacks, long nights of overthinking, or those heavy days when motivation seems to disappear.
But here’s something many pet parents don’t realize:
Our pets can also experience anxiety, depression, and emotional struggles… and sometimes they mirror our own.
As someone who lives with anxiety myself and finds comfort in my pets daily, I’ve seen firsthand how animals feel deeply — just like we do. Their emotional world is rich, sensitive, and beautifully connected to ours.
In this post, let’s explore what anxiety and depression can look like in pets, why it happens, and how we can support them…
and how they can actually help us heal too.
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Can Pets Really Feel Anxiety and Depression?
Yes — and it’s more common than we think.
While animals don’t experience mental health exactly the way humans do, they absolutely feel:
Stress
Fear
Loneliness
Loss
Overstimulation
Routine disruption
Separation from their favorite human
Just like us, pets thrive on stability, affection, safety, and purpose. When something shakes that foundation, emotional symptoms follow.
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Signs of Anxiety in Dogs and Cats
Dogs may show:
Restlessness or pacing
Whining, barking, or howling
Shaking or trembling
Excessive clinginess
Destruction (chewing, digging)
Sudden potty accidents
Refusing food
Panting even when not hot
Cats may show:
Hiding more than usual
Overgrooming or hair loss
Sudden aggression or irritability
Avoiding the litter box
Loss of appetite
Excessive meowing
Tail flicking, crouching, or dilated pupils
If you’ve seen these in your pets — you’re not alone. Many pet parents assume their animals are “just being dramatic,” but these are real emotional signals.
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Signs of Depression in Pets
Depression in animals often mirrors ours:
Sleeping more than usual
Withdrawing from family
Not wanting to play
Eating less or losing weight
No excitement about things they used to love
Low energy or lack of interest
Personality changes
Pets grieve too — after losing a pet friend, a human companion, or even moving homes. Rescue pets especially may carry trauma that takes time and patience to unravel.
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Why Do Pets Feel This Way?
1. Routine Changes
New work schedule? Moved homes? Holidays? Pets feel it all.
2. Human Emotions
Animals are emotional sponges. If you’re stressed, sad, anxious, or overwhelmed — they feel that shift in your energy.
3. Past Trauma
Rescue pets especially may carry memories of abandonment, neglect, or instability.
4. Loneliness
Pets are social creatures. Long hours alone can heavily impact their mood.
5. Health Issues
Sometimes emotional symptoms come from pain or illness — always worth checking with a vet.
6. Boredom
A pet with no stimulation will create their own… and it’s usually not healthy.
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How to Help a Pet With Anxiety or Depression
These tips work beautifully for both cats and dogs — just tailor them to your pet’s natural personality.
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1. Create a Calm, Predictable Routine
Animals feel safest when they know what’s coming.
Consistent feeding times
Regular walks
Predictable play sessions
Quiet nighttime routine
Even a simple structure can soothe an anxious pet.
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2. Make Time for Daily Emotional Connection
Just 15 minutes of:
Snuggles
Gentle grooming
Quiet time together
Sitting in the same room
Soft talking
…can boost your pet’s mood and strengthen your bond.
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3. Provide Enrichment & Purpose
A bored mind is an anxious mind — for pets and humans.
For dogs:
Puzzle toys
Snuffle mats
Slow feeders
New walking routes
Training sessions
Chew toys that challenge their brains
For cats:
Window perches
Cat trees
Laser or wand toys
Food puzzles
Hiding treats around the home
Vertical climbing areas
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4. Use Calming Tools
You can try:
Calming pheromone diffusers
Weighted blankets for pets
Anxiety vests
CBD for pets (vet-approved)
Soothing music
Calming sprays or treats
These won’t cure anxiety, but they help soften the edges.
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5. Check for Medical Issues
Always rule out health problems — especially if symptoms appear suddenly.
Pain, thyroid issues, or infections can mimic depression.
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6. Consider a Companion (When Ready)
Some pets thrive with another furry friend. Others prefer being the only child.
Every pet is unique.
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7. Seek Professional Help When Needed
A licensed vet or pet behaviorist can offer:
Behavior modification
Training plans
Medication when appropriate
There’s no shame in getting support — for animals or humans.
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How Pets Help Us Heal Too
This is where the magic happens.
Pets don’t just need us.
We need them too.
Your dog curling up beside you when you’re crying…
Your cat pressing their warm little head against your hand…
That is love.
That is comfort.
That is healing.
Pets help regulate our nervous systems.
They ground us when our minds spiral.
They give us a reason to get out of bed.
They offer unconditional love — something humans often struggle to do.
And when your pet is anxious, and you gently soothe them?
You’re actually soothing a part of yourself too.
We help each other — and that’s the most beautiful part of being a pet parent.
Final Thoughts: We’re Healing Together
If you’re reading this and thinking:
> “Wow… my pet really is like me.”
You’re not imagining it.
Pets are emotional beings who feel deeply, love fiercely, and struggle quietly.
Just like us, they sometimes need extra comfort, patience, and understanding.
And the best part?
When we show up for our pets, we learn to show up for ourselves too.
If you want to take this further, check out this blog where I share what we as humans can learn from our pets — their loyalty, their emotional honesty, and the simple ways they bring us back to the present moment.
We help each other heal.
Always.

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